Not all relationships run smoothly, and sometimes two people agree to disagree—even though they have feelings for each other! This can usually be put down to differences in people’s characters and temperaments. So learn to talk about your feelings with a friend and maybe make your own relationship better!

In this Podcast, you will learn:

(i) How to talk about breaking up with your boyfriend or girlfriend

(ii) To explain why you broke up


Two friends are talking:


(zài kā fēi tīng)

(at the café)


Nǐ zhī dào me, wǒ hé nán péng yǒu fēn shǒu le.

Hey, do you know that I broke up with my boyfriend?


Á? Nǐ hái hǎo me?

Oh, really? Are you alright?


Yī diǎn dōu bù hǎo. Xīn qíng bù hǎo, zhěng gè rén dōu bù hǎo le.

Not at all. I’m not in a good mood. I don’t feel good at all.


Wèi shén me fēn shǒu a?

Why did you break up?


Hai, jiù shi yīn wéi yī diǎn er jī máo suàn pí de xiǎo shì er chǎo qǐ lái le. Rán hòu, nǐ yě zhī dao, wǒ ài shuō hěn huà, wǒ shuō nà zán liǎ fēn shǒu ba. Tā yě zài qì tóu er shàng, jìng rán shuō, hǎo. Rán hòu jiù…

Just because we fought about some little things. Then, you know, my words can be hurtful when I am mad. I said, let’s break up then. He was in a fit of rage, too. He said ‘yes’. Then we just…


Nǐ liǎ chǎo qǐ lái zhēn de shì shuí yě bù ràng shuí.

When you two fight, neither of you want to give in.


Ai, shì a. wǒ… wǒ xiàn zài xiǎng hé tā hé hǎo.

Yeah, I know, but now I want to make peace with him.


Nà jiu yuē tā chū lái jiàn miàn, hǎo hao hē tā shuō shuo. Yǐ hòu, zài qì tóu er shàng kě bù néng zài shuō fēn shǒu la!

Then ask him out and speak nicely with him. In the future, don’t say you want to break up when you are mad!

Chinese words and phrases mentioned in this Podcast:

你知道么:do you know that


分手:break up

你还好么:are you alright?


鸡毛蒜皮:a Chinese idiom means trivial, little things. Literally means ‘chicken feather, garlic skin’, both of which are extremely light weight.

小事儿:little thing


狠话:harsh words

在气头儿上:in a fit of rage


让着:give in

和好:make peace

约……见面:ask someone out

好好说说:be nice

Cultural/Grammar note:

‘整个人都不好了’ is a popular internet saying which literally means ‘my whole body is not good’.

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Narrated by Song Liu

Our Podcast narrator, is a native Chinese speaker and is originally from Beijing, China and is keen to help you get ahead with learning. She graduated from San Francisco State University with a Master of Arts in Communication Studies. Song also hosted a Mandarin live call-in news and music radio show in the Bay Area.

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