The dream of most younger couples is to find someone to love and be their soul mate, then maybe marry. But, sometimes, work has to come first and many people end up in long-distance relationships where they don’t get to see each other too often. It will be useful to know how to talk about such things if you encounter this sort of situation; who knows, maybe you will have such a relationship too!

In this Podcast, you will learn:

(i) How to discuss a relationship with a friend or colleague

(ii) To ask about how others cope with long-distance love



(zài jiē shàng)

(on the street)


Nǐ nán péng yǒu zuì jìn lái Běi Jīng kàn nǐ me?

Is your boyfriend going to come to Beijing to visit you?


Bù lái. Tā zài Shàn Tóu gōng zuò, zǒu bù kāi a.

No, he works in Shantou, he doesn’t have time to leave.


Nà nǐ qù kàn tā me?

Are you going to visit him then?


Qù bù liǎo, wǒ zhè biān yě máng a.

I can’t go. I’m busy here, too.


Wǒ shì zhēn tǐng pèi fú nǐ liǎ de. Wǒ kě jiān chí bù liǎo yì dì liàn.

I really admire you two. I couldn’t hold on to a long-distance relationship.


Wǒ yě kuài jiān chí bù liǎo le. Shén me shí hou shì ge tóu er a.

I almost can’t hold on to it, either. Sometimes I wonder when will this all come to an end?

Chinese words and phrases mentioned in this Podcast:



看:here refers to ‘visit’

汕头:Shantou, a city in Guangdong province


走不开:means that the person is very busy



挺:very much

佩服:admire, regard someone with respect

你俩:you two

坚持:insist, hold on

异地恋:a long-distance relationship


Cultural/Grammar note:

‘头儿’ is a very useful expression in Chinese.

e.g. 我这头走不开。

Wǒ zhè tóu zǒu bù kāi.

I can’t leave from my side.

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Narrated by Song Liu

Our Podcast narrator, is a native Chinese speaker and is originally from Beijing, China and is keen to help you get ahead with learning. She graduated from San Francisco State University with a Master of Arts in Communication Studies. Song also hosted a Mandarin live call-in news and music radio show in the Bay Area.